Tuesday, August 4, 2009

Sacred Housework (First Post - July 31st 2007)

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I know your thinking – “What is so sacred about cleaning the toilet?” I fought the idea that I could hold these chores in such high regard from the very start. Of course when I began my career as a "homemaker" things were much easier. My husband and had I just moved in together and our tiny apartment housed no children and little to no furniture. The T.V. – which we bought on credit – sat on two cinder blocks atop a piece of plywood. The idea of mopping made me feel grown up and took all of 10 minutes. My husband and I shared tasks and it seemed to take no time at all to straighten things up. Now, cleaning up after a family of seven requires serious skills and timing. The words “Are there any clean towels!” can send shivers up my spine and a burst of resentment if I’m not careful. To some extent I’ve lowered my expectations but on the other hand I’ve raised them too. I am the keeper of our home. I carry this with great pride like carrying the Olympic Torch. Of course it helps that I only work this gig and believe me it is a seven day a week round the clock kind of schedule. I would not even attempt to work an outside job. Some years ago I was lucky enough to come across a book called Simple Abundance (http://www.simpleabundance.com/) and it changed everything for me. It taught me the value of being organized (which has saved my sanity numerous times let me tell you) this book really resonated with my “authentic self” pardon my lapse into the world of Sarah Ban Breathnach. Our homes are our shelter from the world. The place we come to escape the harshness of life. It’s a place where people greet you with warmth and are happy to see you coming through the door at the end of the day. Well… most days anyhow. This really does matter and I realize that my work here is my expression of love for those faces. If you believe that God is part of everything then it’s part of washing the dishes and sweeping the floor too. So it is sacred - even if the profoundness of it is only visible to me. Don’t get me wrong I have nothing against women working outside the home. I am not one of those religious types either that think they are their husbands helpers. No, I am a serious feminist woman. I am proud of the fact that I kept my name (no man would give his up) and after all it’s who I’m known as in this world. What I am most proud of though is that I know the value of real family life and so does my husband. Maybe we don’t have all the monetary things we could have had if I would have been focused on bringing home more money and maybe we never would have taken on 3 more kids (although someone would have had to do this even if it was the State of California) but what we do have is sacred and I’ll clean that toilet over and over to keep that.
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9 comments:

Piecefulafternoon said...

Wonderful post - and wonderful family. Congratulations on your anniversary.

Momma Chae said...

I love this post! I am so glad there are women like you - feminist and full of grace at the same time. I'm going to check out that book! It's a concept I often try to live by.

Simply Mel said...

Absolutely beautiful post! I wouldn't trade being home with my family and making our little love nest perfect for anything in the world!

Bunny, THE PARIS HOUSE said...

I just adore this post. I left my job/career 15 years ago when I had my first child and it was the greatest thing I ever did. I enjoy caring for my family and home and actually like cleaning..I take great pride in my homemaker skills. I too am a feminist and receive great respect from my husband. I run a little business from my home but have absolutely no child care and involve my family in everything I do. Your post is so wonderful and inspirational.
bunny

Linda Lou said...

I have been a Simple Abundance fan for years and have given that book to many friends....i guess anything we do in the home can invoke spirituality and pride--but cleaning toilets.....LOL!

Lady Laura said...

Beautifully worded post! I've read Simple Abundance and learned quite a bit from it.
I know, too, what you mean about being careful about NOT allowing resentment to rise up out of you. What good does it do to clean the toilet (or anything else for that matter) if we're going to be resentful that no one seemed to notice or appreciate it?

wild child said...

Dang it Sabina! I believe every single thing you said... except for that doggone toilet! LOL! But I'm a nutcase with serious toilet issues... LOL :)

You go girl!!!

Meg :)

Furniture removalists said...

I always wanted to just stay home take care of my family but I have to do what I can to help my husband. So I’m so happy you posted your first blog. It really means so much to you. Happy blogneversary!

seo consultants said...

There’s nothing more satisfying than serving your own family. Thank you for posting this, It’s very enlightening.

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